This is our agreement, I would love you to add anything you would like.
- Responsibility: While I understand that coaching is a potentially life-changing experience, I also understand that I remain responsible for my choices, actions, thoughts, and feelings throughout.
- Working with Joe requires a Commitment to Change, change can be hard and there will be times when I push back and that’s ok. Resistance shows something isn’t right and is something I open to exploring. Change takes work, I am prepared to the work in.
- Agreements vs Expectations: I create our coaching relationship around agreements. I will catch the expectations that I have, and if there is something I want to be different, I will speak up and create an agreement around it. Please check out Steve Chandler on Agreements vs Expectations
- Insight vs Time: I understand that the value of my coaching with Joe is not about the time we spend together, but about the insights that I have and how I APPLY them to my life.
- Communication: I will feel empowered to reach out to Joe whenever I feel the urge. I will trust Joe to know boundaries. eg I can message you ad-hoc via Whatsapp or some other means of instant messaging. I do not expect you to answer out of normal working hours and in fact, I would probably worry if you did. XX can message Joe with thoughts/questions as and when, and Joe will respond asynchronously as and when works for him
- The Flame Dial: I understand the difference between High-Flame coaching and Low-Flame coaching. I know that I, at any time, can ask for the coaching to be more or less high flame. I also know that sometimes I won’t be aware of when it’s time for high-flame coaching.
- Integrity & Accountability: Together we will capture actions but when I say I will do something, I do it. I do not expect Joe to hold me accountable. That is a form of giving my power away. Instead, if I do not follow-through, I will own it. I never have to say sorry to Joe. Together we can explore these challenges to following through.
- Authenticity: When I catch myself being inauthentic – I will tell on myself. I understand that saying what Joe wants to hear will dilute the process and the power of our work.
- Confidentiality: Joe agrees not to share anything that comes up in the coaching with anyone outside of the coaching. Joe may ask xx if it’s ok to record a session to run through with his coach or a coach trainer. xx can say no. xx can share as much as he likes with whomever he likes. He can choose to cite Joe or not.
- Success & Results: These are two promises Joe WILL NOT make to you. These are completely up to you. I remain unattached to these. Allowing you to maintain that stance, will have you create those much faster than if I were to take on those responsibilities myself.
- Introductions: Joe will introduce xx to folks who can with all aspects of his journey. XX is under no obligation to take these forward. Joe’s business is fuelled by introductions. Joe will ask for introductions. XX can choose to make those or not.
- You Are Powerful: I promise to see you and hold you as the powerful person I know you are – no matter what. I would not be working with you if I did not KNOW and was not INSPIRED by that power in you.
- There are no Shoulds only Musts. Shoulds are the things others tell us to do. If this is a game of chess then shoulds are the killer moves others have played. Shoulds sound like good moves but may not feel like good moves to YOU. No-one else can see your chess board so no-one can be sure of the right moves for you. Your moves are your Musts.
- Serving vs Pleasing: I am not here to be your friend. I am here to be much more than that. My commitment is to serving you. I will do that by being honest, saying what I see, and not holding anything back. I will speak directly while also making sure that you can hear and integrate what I say. I will not be concerned about hurting your feelings as I know that you are a POWERFUL being who can navigate and sift through what is true and not true for you.